If God had the gospel of Jesus’ salvation in mind when he established marriage, then marriage only “works” to the degree that you approximate the pattern of God’s self-giving love in Christ.
– Tim Keller
Christian teaching does not offer a choice between fulfillment and sacrifice but rather mutual fulfillment through mutual sacrifice. It is the joy that comes from giving joy, from loving another person in a costly way. – Tim Keller
When a woman marries a man, she’s trusting that for the rest of her life he won’t hit her, cheat on her, rape her, or kill her; that he’ll work hard, pay the bills, love their children, finish the race well, and walk with Jesus until the end; that if she gets sick he’ll look after her; that if she is dying, he will be faithful to her.
Gentlemen, it is a terrifying thing for a woman to trust a sinful man. Will he take responsibility or dump it all on her? Will he be too tough and crush her? Or will he be too tender and allow her to be crushed? – Mark Driscoll
Very soon the shadow will give way to Reality. The partial will pass into the Perfect. The foretaste will lead to the Banquet. The troubled path will end in Paradise. A hundred candle-lit evenings will come to their consummation in the marriage supper of the Lamb. And this momentary marriage will be swallowed up by Life. Christ will be all in all. And the purpose of marriage complete.
To that end may God give us eyes to see what matters most in this life. May the Holy Spirit, who he sends, make his crucified and risen Son the supreme Treasure of our lives. And may that Treasure so satisfy our souls that the root of every marriage-destroying impulse is severed. And may the marriage-watching world be captivated by the covenant keeping love of Christ. – John Piper