Then I heard what seemed to be the voice of a great multitude, like the roar of many waters and like the sound of mighty peals of thunder, crying out, “Hallelujah! For the Lord our God the Almighty reigns. Let us rejoice and exult and give him the glory, for the marriage of the Lamb has come, and his Bride has made herself ready; it was granted her to clothe herself with fine linen, bright and pure”— for the fine linen is the righteous deeds of the saints. – Revelation 19:6-8 (ESV)

The wife tells the story of the gospel through church-like submission to her husband, who is the head of their marriage.

11 Things Submission Is Not

  1. Submission does not mean that wives are less important than husbands
  2. Submission does not mean that wives are to submit to all men
  3. Submission is not agreeing with everything your husband says
  4. Submission doesn’t mean that you are unable to effect change in your husbands life
  5. Submission is not a statement on the capability of a wife
  6. Submission is not commanded because of the capability of your husband
  7. Submission does not mean that your relationship with God must flow through your husband
  8. Submission does not mean following your husband into sin
  9. Submission does not mean that you take military orders from your husband
  10. Submission is not about fitting a certain mold or style
  11. Submission is not waiting for your husband to come up with all of the ideas

While Paul writes that the husband is “head” of his wife, whatever it means cannot negate the fact that he is also his wife’s Christian brother and bond-servant, according to Galatians 5:13. Husbands and wives must serve each other, must “give themselves up” for one another. That does not destroy the exercise of authority within a human relationship, but it does radically transform it.
– Tim Keller

1. What is biblical submission?

2. Why should a wife practice submission?

The idea of headship and submission never began! It has always existed in the eternal nature of God himself. And in this most basic of all authority relationships, authority is not based on gifts or ability; it is just there…. The relationship between the father, son and holy spirit is one of leadership and authority on the one hand and voluntary, willing, joyful submission to that authority on the other hand. We can learn from this that submission to a rightful authority is a noble virtue. It is a privilege. It is something good and desirable. It is the virtue that has been demonstrated by the eternal Son of God forever. It is His glory, the glory of the Son as He relates to His father. – Wayne Grudem

3. What does it look like?

A Few Pratical Outworkings Of Biblical Submission

  1. Repent where you have held a different view, or where you have resisted God’s design for the role of a wife.
  2. Pray for a heart that desires to tell the glory of the gospel as a wife.
  3. Discern your temptations.
  4. Tell your husband that you want to help him lead you.
  5. Speak up with a heart to help.

A wife, if she is very generous, may allow that her husband lives up to perhaps eighty percent of her expectations. There is always the other twenty percent that she would like to change and she may chip away at it for the whole of their married life without reducing it by very much. She may, on the other hand, simply decide to enjoy the eighty percent and both of them will be happy. – Elisabeth Elliot

Chris Daukas

Chris grew up with a loving family and in a moral home, but despite his upbringing, he was a sinner in need of grace. In his sophomore year of college, Chris yielded his life to Jesus Christ as Lord and Savior. He began to devour the Word and was soon helping to lead bible studies, outreaches, and worship at church. He married his beautiful wife, Tara, in the summer of 2000.

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